Chosen and Loved

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For the past several weeks I have been reading through the book of Romans. Through reading it, rereading it, and copying down passages I have been learning one main thing: I see so clearly that I am loved so much that the God of the universe made a way for me to spend eternity with Him.

Through the Law given to Moses in the Old Testament I fall flat on my face. Worse, I am completely dead in my sins (Eph. 2:5). But out of overwhelming compassion, God scooped me up…. bloody, wretched, filthy sinner that I was – dead – and breathed life in me through salvation in Jesus Christ and said, “I choose you.” This makes me weak at the knees. I cannot possibly put into words what it feels like in that moment when it really sinks in how hopeless my situation as a sinner was before God made me His child – His heir (Rom. 8:17). I went from guilty sinner to justified child of God. God personally chose me to be one of His and gave my life meaning and purpose.

You want to know what is so incredible? The fact that God made galaxies and oceans, two things that scientists have been studying and mesmerized with for hundreds of years; two things that gloriously show the handiwork of their creator God and boast of His name, but yet He looked at me and said, “I love you more”. That is even more than incredible, it’s indescribably wonderful.

I am loved and am chosen by a phenomenal God.

This blog post isn’t meant to be long or really thought-provoking. It serves only one purpose: to tell of the goodness of the God I love and live for. I have become overwhelmed so many times lately by God revealing His grace and sovereignty in my life that I physically cannot hold it in any longer. This is simply me sharing with you all how much I know I don’t deserve the love of my heavenly Father, but that I am so grateful that I have been chose by Him and passionately loved by Him and how I know that I have purpose and meaning because of Him.

“For I am not ashamed of the gospel, because it is the power of God that brings salvation to everyone who believes: first to the Jew, then to the Gentile.” –Romans 1:16

This entry was posted on July 26, 2016. 1 Comment

A Time and a Season

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I remember “graduation season” vividly and I often refer to it at my entrance into adulthood (even though I wasn’t officially an adult until three months after graduation when I turned eighteen). That season was a HUGE growing experience in my life mentally, emotionally, and especially spiritually. I had to learn how to face the world’s daunting questions; and to be honest, they almost seem to be used to intimidate “new comers” (high school graduates). All that was expected of me from the world’s standpoint was to do well in school and participate in extracurricular activities… until now, when suddenly I needed to know exactly what I wanted to do with rest of my life. People expect you to have a game plan written out and to do everything possible to reach the end result, whatever that may entail.

Let me just be honest with you… I believed that lie for a time. I believed I had to have everything figured out by sophomore/junior year in high school and dedicate my entire life to reach personal success. I had a plan. I was working on achieving it.

Then something happened.

God woke me up.

I wish I had known this years ago – and I mean really known this, because there are some people who will say this, but that doesn’t mean it actually sinks in and you fully grasp the concept – but you don’t have to have everything figured out. In fact, I believe you can’t have everything figured out. For one simple reason. You are not omniscient (all-knowing). None of us are. I don’t know what my future holds, so I have to trust the One Who does. God has also revealed a very important truth to me recently, our lives go through seasons of what we are supposed to do. You might be thinking, “Umm, I already knew that. Tell me something I don’t know.” But you have to understand that I sincerely believe that God calls us to (sometimes very) different things at different seasons in life.

Up through half of my senior year in high school I wanted so badly to go off to college. But God had a different plan for me (as I’ve talked about so many times before) and for the first two years after graduation I stayed at home. I worked around the house, volunteered for a couple of different ministries, and taught beginner piano to bring in a little money. I know that God was teaching me how to fully trust in Him (which, for the record, I’m still learning to do faithfully) and His plan for my life. That was an important season in my life that I am incredibly grateful that I had.

He doesn’t reveal the whole thing to us. He gives us one chapter at a time – in fact, many times He doesn’t even give us that much. It’s more like one page at a time. These are our seasons. He is using this to build faith and trust in Him.

It’s amazing how different one season can look from another, too. That season of “staying home” has come to a close for me; I’ve been working part time for over a year now and as of last month am building up to working full-time (collectively between a few different part-time jobs) and am working towards building my own business. And you know what? I am loving this season (just like the one before this) for one reason: I believe this is where God has me in this season and I am working hard toward goals that the Lord is leading me to pursue during this amazing time in my life. I have found joy in these different times; not that they were always “fun” or that I was always filled with happiness, but I am learning that there’s purpose in it and through it all I pray that I glorify God.

I want so badly for you to know that if you don’t have a plan for five years into the future, just be faithful with what God has given you to do this month. Very rarely does life go as you planned. Trust God and work hard on what you have to do RIGHT NOW. Let Him lay the pieces as He sees fit. Also know that this whole trusting thing is going to be a daily choice.

Let me say that again, trusting God is a daily choice.

It is not a one-time thing. When you’re nervous because the summer is halfway through already and you aren’t sure what you’re going to do in the fall, trust God. When the people around you are pressuring you into making decisions that you’ve already handed over to God, trust Him. He will never fail you.

Always, always, always remember that the sole purpose of our existence here on earth as believers in Christ is to bring glory to God. That’s it. That’s all. If He chooses to make you do that through waiting, do it. You’re going to look odd to most people, even some Christians. But learning that you don’t have to have it all planned out can actually be very freeing if you let it and if you surrender completely to the Lord.

I would also like to add that if you DO have big aspirations and you feel like you know where the Lord is leading you, hold those plans with unclenched, totally outstretched arms to God. Because the minute you hold on to those plans too tightly, you’ve put those desires over God in your heart. Trust me, I’ve done it more times than I’d be comfortable admitting publically. I’ve tried taking the control from God by planning out my goals and being so bullheaded about them that I felt like I spun out of control. God allows us to get that way and become desperate so that we realize we need to repent and turn back to Him. Chances are you’ve experienced this in the past, or you may even be going through it right now. Always remember that God will pick you back up, help you to dust off, and gently continue to mold you into Christ’s image. Learn from it!

This is something that I will never be perfect at, but I am trying to remember that with every area of my life I need to say, “Thy will be done.” Because through learning that God will call me to focus on different things in different seasons has really opened my eyes to how I can trust Him more fully. By trusting in Him I am glorifying Him.

 

My Summer Reading List – HEAV Convention finds!

I am a fan of lists. I am also a fan of reading. So, naturally, I am a huge fan of reading lists! While I was attending Home Educators Association of Virginia’s homeschool convention this month I bought a few (or several…) books that I wanted to make up as my summer reading list for this year! Chances are, I might add books, or edit this list throughout the summer, but for now this is what I have and am so excited to dig into ALL of them!


The Essential Home-Ground Flour Book by Sue Becker   I’m not going to lie, I dove right into this on the road trip back home from the convention. I was so excited to read it, especially after sitting in on one of the workshops that the author, Sue Becker, hosted that very weekend. I had already become very intrigued by pretty much all things nutrition and whole foods; after this workshop I was inspired to purchase this book and read it. It has two parts to it, the first part is informative and the second is a cook book. So far, I am thoroughly enjoying this book and will be recommending it in the future for anyone who is interested about the benefits of whole wheat and grain.

Meet the Skeptic by Bill Foster   This is one that I found when roaming through the exhibit hall. I love learning how to effectively defend a biblical worldview, and from reading the back cover, this looked like a good, relatively quick-read on just that. Plus, when I was looking at this book, the lady who was working that booth said that she loved the book! A good recommendation is definitely a good way to get a customer, and it worked on me.

Already Gone by Ken Ham & Britt Beemer   Ken Ham wrote it, so I already know it is going to be interesting! I had heard of this book before, so when I saw it in the Used Curriculum Sale I snatched it up. This book is all about youth and young adults leaving the church and why. Since I fall in this age group, I want to have a little bit of an understanding on this important topic.

The Myth of the A.D.D. Child by Thomas Armstrong, Ph.D.   Okay, so you might think this is a very random book to pick up. It might be, but I have been finding things like this intriguing lately. Since it was only $1 in the Used Curriculum Sale I said, “hey, why not?” I’ll give it a try and probably learn something along the way!

Francois Fenelon: A Biography by Peter Gorday   This is two things I love: history and Christianity. One of my favorite things to do when growing up was reading biographies. I try to do so even now, because there is so much to learn from the lives of those who have lived before me. This was my third find in the Used Curriculum Sale and I am excited to dig into it!

World Religions and Cults: Counterfeits of Christianity by Bodie Hodge & Rodger Patterson   This book caught my eye as I was roaming the exhibit hall and was actually at the same booth as another book I bought ‘Meet the Skeptic’. After reading the description it immediately captivated me and looks to be along the same lines as ‘Meet the Skeptic’ as far as understanding where other people are coming from and how to witness to them where they’re at. Recently I’ve developed a newfound interest in learning about how people think and facing it with a biblical perspective. Since almost everything a person believes in stems from their religious beliefs, I want to understand a little bit better about that. I am super excited about this book, to say the least – plus it’s the first book in a three part series! So I may be purchasing those in the near future!

 

If anyone is interested in any of the books I have mentioned here, I would love to let you know what I thought of the book once I’ve finished it. Have you personally read any of these books? What are your thoughts? Also, if you attended HEAV’s convention this month, what books/material did you purchase that you’re super excited about diving into? Let me know! I would love to hear from you!

 

Blessings,

Maiya

The “Why” of Homeschooling – HEAV Convention 2016

This past weekend fourteen thousand homeschooling mothers, fathers, and children gathered in one place in Richmond, VA to “be transformed” (Rom. 12:2) and refreshed in their homeschool journey. Once again, Home Educators Association of Virginia delivered a magnificent convention. Each year I get a little more of a glimpse of all that goes into pulling it off and I am speechless and amazed. I am so thankful to be plugging into this wonderful organization that bathes every moment of this event in prayer. God is at the center of it all; and the verse that comes to mind when I think of all of it coming together is this:

“Delight yourself in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart.” -Psalm 37:4

I was personally given the opportunity to be involved as a volunteer in a few different areas of the convention throughout the weekend. I have had the privilege of being a volunteer blogger for HEAV for about three years now, and this past weekend was my second year as a convention blogger. Mainly, this job means I share posts on Facebook keeping my own friends up-to-date on things going on with convention, writing blog posts about convention on my personal blog, AND hosting my very own giveaway! This is one of my favorite parts because I have the opportunity to tell someone they get to attend this life-changing event for FREE! I get super excited about that because I know from personal experience how wonderful this weekend can be; and many people (but definitely not all) who enter the giveaway are potential new-goers.

 

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The Exhibit Hall on Saturday! So much to look at! This is actually a small crowd because many people were in workshops when I snapped this photo.

 

 

On the first day I was able to attend a meet-and-greet for the bloggers and vendors at the convention. I got to talk to some wonderful people and hear the president of HEAV talk a little bit about the vision for this year’s convention, which was this: WHY each family chooses to homeschool. I love how the answer is personalized for each individual family. Because homeschooling is about what works best for each family, which is one of the many beautiful things about home education. It was asked that we not focus on the negative whys (like avoiding of public school) but the purely positive things; perhaps such things as a focus on family relationships, a study-at-your-own-pace approach, etc. I loved that she made sure to mention that the positive reasons for homeschooling should be the focus, not the negative. There is enough in the society we live in that reminds us all of the negativity surrounding us in this world – to have someone encourage us to be intentional about focusing solely on the good, the positive, the blessings, was a breath of fresh air!

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As someone who has grown up in the homeschooling community and who wishes to (Lord willing) raise her children someday in the same community and atmosphere, I love learning all I can about home education. I think it is definitely important to understand why you feel led to do something. Just like in many other areas of life, knowing your “why” is one of the most important steps in the journey as well as what keeps you going when hitting difficult times. Because of this, I thought the fact that they chose this to be the theme was beautiful and brilliant.

If you were unable to attend the convention, I would still encourage you to think about why it is you feel the Lord leading you to homeschool. Discouragement will be prevalent in this journey and whenever it creeps up it will be so important to remember the answer to that question, “why am I doing this?”. It takes a great deal of trust, as well. Trust in the Lord with all of your heart. (Prov. 3:5) We must never forget these two things throughout any area of life and the path God leads us down. Homeschooling is just the same.

I have been so blessed by this past weekend and hope that you will get the opportunity to attend next year! So, until June 8-10th, 2017… Have a blessed summer (and upcoming school year)!

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.

-Romans 12:2 (ESV)

 

 

Hurting and Healing

It’s hard for me to wrap my mind around… Forgiveness. I cannot comprehend it. To pardon someone’s offences toward you – intentional or not, the hurt I feel is real and it seems to be a part of me. How does one forgive? That seems like such a silly question to ask, even to me. It has paralyzed me at times because I just find myself stuck… dumfounded… not knowing how to do it.

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Yet, that’s exactly what Jesus did.

He forgave.

And He did this so willingly and freely for ME! 

Salvation is personalized. Jesus died for Maiya’s sins. He forgave me for all wrongdoings against Him. Why? Because He loves me. I have the ultimate example of forgiveness and yet I still struggle. I think that’s where pride comes into play. I struggle even more so with pride. But Jesus loves the humble. He teaches meekness. I can never forgive if I do not swallow my own pride and forever and always remember that all that I do, I need to do because of Jesus Christ. Therefore, when I forgive, it does not need to be for any other reason than because I love my Savior, Jesus Christ.

I don’t think that apart from Jesus true forgiveness is even possible. I don’t know how to do it. I think that’s because it is an act of love. Jesus loved me, so He forgave my sins even when I did not deserve it. In following, I need to forgive those who have hurt me simply because I love Jesus.

But then, the Bible takes it a step farther (uh oh..)

But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you. To one who strikes you on the cheek, offer the other also, and from one who takes away your cloak do not withhold your tunic either.” -Luke 6:27-29

Jesus commands that we love. Love who? All. Even those who have caused pain.

“For if you love those who love you, what reward do you have?” -Matthew 5:46

I want to be careful to mention that I thoroughly believe that love does not mean trust and it does not mean we agree or support everything they do. To love others the way God intended means to understand that they are a human soul created in the image of God and as Believers we need to show kindness and compassion and through that, Christ.

“And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us…” -Ephesians 5:2

This commandment shows me that love is only possible through the blood of Jesus Christ. I cannot love everyone by my own will. It is physically impossible for me to do so. By nature I am too prideful to love those that oppose me. This can only mean one thing: I must strive with all my being to crave a passionate love for Jesus Christ and that through my love for Him He can love others through me. It is not by my will but by His alone.

Because of forgiveness in Christ I no longer have to hurt.

Because of love through Christ I will heal.

It’s beautiful, really. Raw and even hard. But I find that the more I grow up, the more I see that it is the raw, difficult things that we have to battle for – I mean really BATTLE for – that are beautiful. God’s grace towards me leaves me speechless. I don’t understand why He takes such extreme measures to protect and love me, because I mess up so much. But then, that’s just part of who He is… He loves me more than I can comprehend. Because of Him I experience true healing through His love and I don’t have to hurt anymore.

YOU don’t have to hurt anymore because of His love that pours out over us and wraps us in. Forgiveness can be one of the most difficult things to do, but with God all things are possible. Allow God to work in your heart so that you can forgive. Healing and growth are impossible otherwise.

He Can’t Love You Yet

Because of where I work (at a school) and just my experiences outside of work around youth I am able to see how they act on a semi-daily basis. Something that I’ve noticed is the older you get the easier it is to spot those silly school girl/boy crushes. What I see in this age group just makes me want to cry out to them and tell them something that I wish so desperately more people would be making them aware of.

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I am going to specifically address girls because, well, that’s what I can relate to.

Girls, any guy walking through the school hallway, no matter how good looking he may be, is so not ready for the responsibility of being the caretaker of your heart. He’s just not “into” you like that. He’s too young. I have seen many girls heartbroken because they thought that the boy they’re dating in high school or even middle school was the one. And I understand that marrying someone from high school is totally possible, but you’re definitely not going to be able to marry them while you’re in high school or middle school.

I hope you’ll hear me out.

That boy you think can make you happy needs to grow up first. I don’t say this in a harsh tone towards males. I think they’re fabulous. But I also happen to know that when boys are that young they have no idea what it takes to love you the way you ought to be loved; to take care of you the way you should be taken care of. To be honest, most of us girls, when we’re still that young, have no idea how to love them (men) the way they need to be loved either. So don’t think it’s all their fault and that you’re just waiting for them to grow up and mature.

This is all a process that every single one of use goes through. If you’re open to it, the Lord will fulfill that desire for love and passion while you’re learning to grow in maturity and while you’re waiting for “him” to grow up too.

Let boys be boys and mess around on football fields and play in the mud with their friends. Don’t give your precious heart to them just yet. Let them grow up first. If you wait for God to show you the man that will utterly desire you and cherish you the way you were meant to be cherished nothing would compare to it.

I know that this world encourages, and even pushes, you to constantly be with someone or at least to be “in love” with someone. Don’t let that term become commonplace to you. Let it mean something special by giving your heart to Jesus and allowing His perfect timing and will guide your love story. Don’t let the petty “dating game” keep you from the potential God has in store for you when you let Him be the Lover of your soul.

It’s hard. I’m not saying otherwise. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy. But with time and grace it becomes more peaceful and meaningful. Be in love with God and let Him show you your Prince Charming when the perfect time comes. It’s worth the wait.

“Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.” -Psalm 27:14 (NLT)

This entry was posted on June 6, 2016. 2 Comments

It’s Time for a Giveaway!

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I am so excited to be the very last blogger giving away a FULL pass for this year’s HEAV Homeschool Convention!

Leading up to this giveaway I have talking about some things to remember while preparing for/attending convention that you can read here, and some things that I have learned I definitely want to have on hand while at the convention that you can read about here. I also wanted to take this opportunity to share a few blog posts that I have written in the past specifically for HEAV’s convention.

In ‘Get Excited about 2015 HEAV Convention! Volunteering’ I had the privilege of interviewing three lovely ladies that range in their experience as convention volunteers and LOVED reading through their different replies. I hope you will take a minute to read it and get excited to volunteer this year.

‘Four Things I Learned at the Homeschool Convention’ is actually a link up to HEAV’s blog. It’s something that I wrote after attending the convention and goes through a few things that I gleaned from my time spent at the convention that weekend.

In ‘HEAV Homeschool Convention… It’s for Teens and Young Adults, too!’ I talk about how there is something for everyone there, including those of you who fall under my age-group: young adults. Go there being excited and ready to learn (yes, learn) and trust me, you will have a wonderful time.

OKAY! So enough of that…

Let’s get down to the point…

It’s giveaway time!!!

 

I pray that this will be a blessing to just the right family! I have full confidence that the Lord knows who will benefit from this and I want to tell you in advance: congratulations! I am so excited for you to be able to attend this year. So enter!

Click here to enter this giveaway.

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This entry was posted on May 20, 2016. 6 Comments

What I Want to have on Hand at the Convention

For many people the summertime is just about as good as it gets with beach trips, cook outs, bonfires, s’mores, and starry nights. For homeschoolers, this is still true – but with one thing more: homeschool conventions! If you’re a native Virginian (or even live in the surrounding states) HEAV’s Homeschool Convention is one that makes the “don’t miss” list.

I have been attending the HEAV convention for a few years now (my parents going for many years) and each year there are a few things I have found that would have been a good idea to bring. Some things I have brought, some things I wish I had. So I want to share with you some things that I definitely want to have on hand this year at convention!

 

–          Shoe inserts. This one might label me as old lady, but I just have to invest in some Dr. Scholls this year to help me get through three days of pretty much constant standing and walking on that concrete floor at the convention. My feet get so sore that I think it’s worth it.

–          Peppermint & Lavender Essential Oils. I really cannot go anywhere anymore without my essential oils. And it’s pretty much inevitable that my feet will still get sore each day even if I do get shoe inserts. So I will be bringing these oils to soak my feet in each night after walking around all day long (but, hey, my Fitbit will rack up some high stepping)! I will probably bring my PanAway essential oil as well as it works wonders for aches and pains!

–          Premade address labels. There will be mailing lists galore and oodles of drawings for us to enter.  This can add up to a lot of time! The very first year I attended, my mom told me about making address/info labels so that I could just quickly stick one on with all my contact info. It’s a small time saver, but I think it’s worth it and comes in handy. I add my address, email, and phone number. Just add any contact info you feel you would be comfortable with sharing there.

–          Tote bag. I’m not playing. I plan on bringing the biggest one I have (which is pretty big) because there are so many things that I will have to keep track of by the end of the day. Even if I don’t buy much, there are always free hand-outs everywhere…with actual interesting information, not just those slips of paper that you throw away at the next garbage bin you come across. I know many, many people get rolling crates instead of using a bag, but I don’t think I’ve reached that level…yet. 😉

–          Pen and paper. Okay, so you might be thinking, “well, duh!” But I keep a small notepad in my purse that I will be using a lot that weekend. Especially when you get into the Exhibit Hall, it is so huge in there that it will be SO easy to loose track of where a certain booth was located that you will try desperately to remember where it was. Write down the name and booth number. Problem solved!

 

This is just a small list of some of the things that I hope will be helpful tidbits to remember for the wonderful (and even a bit overwhelming) weekend ahead of you! Each year I learn something different, not just during workshops, but by just BEING there. If this is your first year, I am so excited for you to experience this wonderful event designed to equip and encourage homeschoolers along this incredibly rewarding journey! If you’re a seasoned convention-goer, what are your must-have-on-hand tips? I’d love to know!

Things to Remember while Attending the Convention

I’m pretty sure most of you know that I am not a homeschool mom. So I was a little bit hesitant about writing this. But it was laid on my heart, and I hope I can encourage a weary mother in her homeschool journey or a new homeschool mom heading into this crazy yet exciting phase in life. (I know this description to be accurate by observing my own mom in her journey.)

 

As a young woman who has attended the convention as a future-homeschooling-mama-hopeful, I have observed concerns and expectations of mothers who are 1) preparing for the convention and 2) attending the convention. I have taken notes to tuck away for my own remembrance, and I want to share a few of them now:

 

First thing first…

 

Growing spiritually is one of the best things that you can do for your child’s education. I am a passionate supporter of homeschooling because of the experience I had growing up. My parents love the Lord. As my main educator, my mom always put a huge emphasis on serving the Lord with gladness through the way she taught me and my siblings. She has a desire to chase after God and dig into His Word daily. I saw that growing up and that is why I think I love homeschooling as much as I do, because I had the unique privilege of seeing that day in and day out. Mamas, loving God is the foundation for success in anything: homeschooling is no different.

 

I’ve noticed that new homeschool moms are full of questions for the “veterans” when they are on the topic of homeschooling. When I “get there” I want to remember this: When talking to homeschool veterans at convention (or anywhere), after asking questions about curriculum and such, remember to ask them one other question: How did God use this season in your life for His glory? I believe whole-heartedly that the academic portion comes second to the spiritual in home education. Ultimately that is what homeschooling should be about.

 

Which leads me to this…

 

Never forget that instilling a love for Jesus Christ and raising His warriors should be top priority, not raising children with high test scores. My mom has always been very involved in the homeschool community; ever since I was in high school I loved sitting with my mom and listening to her talk (and even joining in the conversation every once in a while) with other moms either in group settings at co-ops or one-on-one settings over some coffee on a living room couch. The moms that always, without fail, stand out to me and inspire me the most are the ones who ooze Jesus’ love. When I talk to homeschool moms who are more interested in teaching their children life skills and character qualities than in boasting about their science grades, that is when I take the most mental notes. I want to remember what they did so I can incorporate that into my own journey someday. Please understand that I am not saying good grades aren’t important, because they are; and kids should work hard to earn good grades. What I am trying to say is this only: God comes before grades. After the foundation is established, then the building can begin. If that foundation is solid, then the building will be less susceptible to crumble.

 

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If you made it through all three of those you probably noticed a trend? Yep! That’s because I encounter lots of questions as a homeschooler about my experience and about my Mom. Things like, “Did you enjoy being homeschooled?” and, by far the most frequently asked question, “How does your mother do it? I don’t have enough patience for that.” If you asked my mom, she would tell you she doesn’t have enough patience either.

 

Homeschooling is a walk of faith. Yes, not everyone is in a place where homeschooling is an option for them. But for my parents and many of the homeschooling mama friends I know, they would agree that God is in control of everything. Including homeschooling.

 

These are definitely more general things to remember throughout your school year and aren’t specifically for attending convention. But the convention is a time of refreshment and encouragement, so I hope that this is something that can read and be encouraged by as you’re preparing for convention weekend.

 

Blessings,

Maiya

To My Parents on their 20th Anniversary

Hello, Readers!

I have a perfectly reasonable explanation for why nothing has been posted for a few weeks.

 

I’ve been busy.

 

No, but seriously. Today I actually want to share with you something that I wrote for my parents this past month. Their 20th wedding anniversary was at the beginning of this month and my family and I put together a big party for them… the best part? It was a complete surprise!

 

Well, let me back up a second. My dad knew we were putting together something. But the only thing he knew what when and where. We kept him in the dark about everything else! Except for the almost disastrous slip ups I made that were so close to giving everything away. Apparently I am a bad liar. But that’s a good thing, isn’t it??

 

The night was PERFECT and I can’t thank everyone enough for all the help they were!

 

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Among the things we did that night, I read aloud a letter that I had written to my parents. I wanted to go ahead a share it on my blog so I can let everyone know just how much I love them! 🙂

 

Dear Mom and Dad,

            Over the past week while I was working on this party, I wanted to say something to you guys – so I started thinking about the things I have learned from you both. Here is what I came up with.

            The very first thing that came to mind is this:

I have learned that family always comes first. This isn’t just something that you have said to us children growing up, but you have led us by example. You have always made family nights important, never put friends or social gatherings before us, and taught us what a family should look like.

            I learned that hospitality is important. I have so many memories involing you guys welcoming people into our home. Whether that meant opening up our home for an evening, a weekend, or even the majority of a deployment. Loving on people and sharing the comfort of home has always been a passion of yours.

            I learned the skill of getting back up and dusting off. Both of you are caring, but you never allow us kids to feel bad for ourselves. As I grow up I a trying to cultivate this life skill and I thank you for that.

            I have learned that joy is not the same as happiness. While I have heard many parents say, “I just want my kids to be happy,” I don’t ever remember you guys saying that. Instead, you have instilled in me how necessary it is to know the difference between simply being happy and finding pure joy in Jesus Christ.

            I have learned that there needs to be a healthy balance between generosity and frugality. Dad has always been the spender and Mom the saver. Seeing you guys learn to work together has been really beneficial to me.

            I have learned to always be eager to help others. Whether that meant making a meal, letting a family stay in our home, helping them move… and I could go on. JOY truly does mean “Jesus Others You” and you have taught me well to love others.

            I have learned that siblings are built-in friends. Even though the YouTube video quote, “siblings are my bestest friends” was made as a joke, there is some truth in it. I am learning every day how to be a friend, not just a sister, to my siblings. That is all because from the time we were little I remember you telling us that we should be each others friends.

            I have learned to work well with other people. You both took the time to teach me the quality of both hard work and working with other people. Because if it, wherever we kids go people are always amazed at how well and how quickly we get things done.

            The single most important thing that I have learned from you is that only two things in this world will last: God’s Word and human souls. As I grow up, I have come to realize just how rare it is to have parents who daily give it all they have to raise their children up to be passionate about their Savior, Jesus Christ, and who love to serve others. Thank you. I hope I can do the same for my family some day.

            I have learned that you never, ever, ever talk bad about your family to others. I remember the first time I came across the word “gossip”. When I asked Mom what it meant, the first thing she said was, “we never do it.” Ever since then, I have made it a point to remember that. Mom, you have always set a good example of this by never giving in to the temptation of gossiping about family, even when it would have been so easy to do. I have admired that about you all my life.

            I have learned that support is necessary. You have taught me to always lean on and rely on God. But that we also need to make sure we are there for each other. Especially during hard decision-making times, deployments, etc. Knowing that you have your family’s support is invaluable.

            I have learned that there is always something to do. There have been many times a child would say (including myself) “I’m bored”. Mom’s answer was always the same, “then go clean something.” We were never allowed to be bored. There was always a book to read, a sibling to play with, a room to clean, a game to play, SOMETHING! This has served me well… I haven’t been bored in YEARS!

            Growing up I have had the privilege of watching you two as a married couple who truly love each other. I have learned how a man should treat a woman; by loving her, protecting her, only having eyes for her, and putting her needs before his own. I have also learned how I should treat a man; by serving him, caring for him, and building him up both in his presence and to others when he isn’t around.

            There are also a few things that I am still working on learning from you guys.

            Such as…

            Turning off lights when I leave the room,

            Putting the parking brake on,

            Putting the keys away properly so other people can find them,

            And getting home when I say I will instead of fifteen minutes later.

 

Love,

Maiya