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Be A Girl Worth Searching For



Being a young lady in the 21st century is tough. I’m not going to lie. Being a young lady overly anxious for Prince Charming to come on the scene makes it even harder. There are many girls who have their standards set unreasonably high for Mr. Right. They have everything planned out and know exactly what they want in a man… down to his hair color. (For some, I am not exaggerating). High standards are good, but we need to primarily focus on character rather than externals.
I have also seen a true concern among some young ladies that there aren’t any “good men” left. I’m here to assure you that there are. God has it all planned out for you. However, so many girls have set their standards for their dream man, but haven’t taken a moment’s thought about themselves. If you want Prince Charming to come sweep you off your feet with romance, chivalry, godliness, and good character, then you need to make sure you are learning how to become a woman that a gentleman like that would seek. Be a girl worth searching for! Don’t stress that there aren’t any gentleman left. There are. But they are waiting for God to lead them to a godly, noble woman of character. This “becoming a godly woman” thing doesn’t magically happen when you see a handsome gentleman sitting in the church pew in front of you. It happens now. It happens during your single years, while God is preparing your heart and his – whomever “he” may be.
How do I become a girl worth searching for?

First and foremost, a woman of godly character has a heart full of the love of her heavenly Father.
Pray and ask God to help you keep your eyes fixed upon Him. He is my number one priority. He is my Heavenly Prince. He deserves all of my attention right now. He deserves all of my love and energy right now. Not some figment of my imagination.

An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit…” -1 Corinthians 7:34 (NIV)

Search the Scriptures. God has a love letter for his daughters to read, learn from, and memorize to help us become true women of God. For this particular topic of being a godly woman, start with Proverbs 31:10-31. From there you will learn that a godly, noble woman is:
And much more!

Read through it, study it, even memorize it! Knowing God’s Word is one of the biggest ways to become a true woman of God – a girl worth searching for!

Another thing I really enjoy doing to better myself in becoming a more godly woman is to listen to or read about older ladies journeys. The ones who have gone before me. The ones who have experienced more and know more. The ones who want to encourage other young ladies as we come up behind them and are patiently awaiting God’s perfect timing to bring our earthly prince into our life. Those are the ladies I love listening to and reading what they have to say. This come straight out of Titus 2 which says in verses 4-5,
“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” (NIV)

The “they” verse four is referring to are the older women in the church. They are urged to set an example and to encourage the younger women coming up behind them. There is much to learn from the older, more experienced women. Take time to listen to them. It is another important part of becoming a noble woman yourself.

It is not our job to worry about there being a gentleman out there for us. God has a plan for that. What is our job is to work on our heart and mind. Molding and shaping ourselves into strong, gentle, kind, noble, and godly women. Take this time to continually work on growing to be more and more like the godly young lady God has you to be. Again, I want to echo what I said earlier: Keep your eyes on the Lord! By His strength alone can we become women of character.

“I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure,”
-Psalm 16:8-9 (NIV)


Keeping Productive During Your Season of Singleness


Last week I talked about the blessings of your season of singleness. How it is something to be cherished, instead of dreaded. I also said it was a time to learn, serve, and grow. Well, I thought it would be a good idea to expand a little more on that: how to best go about learning, serving, and growing.

Ever since I was a little girl, Proverbs 31 has been a favorite passage of mine. The woman portrayed here is such a good example of productivity. She knows many skill and trades, and works so diligently with her hands for her family. We can learn a lot from her. This season of singleness is one of the most important opportunities to learn the skills that will help you to serve your family and the people around you.

Learn: Learn the homemaking skills you will need one day as the keeper of your home. I’ve heard of countless stories of women waiting until they were engaged to start learning the valuable skills a wife/mother needs to know. How to cook, how to do laundry, and organizational skills are all basic things I encourage you to get experienced with. If you are already good with those, you might want to consider learning things like gardening, couponing, or sewing. Any new skill that you can use to help your family and the family you may have someday.

This is also a great time to do LOTS of reading on a variety of topics. Some of my favorites are Preparing To Be A Help Meet by Debi Pearl and What The Bible Says About Healthy Living by Rex Russell. The more you know, the more prepared you are for life. Reading books like this is almost like walking with the wise and learning from them.

“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” –Proverbs 4:7


Serve: Serve your family. Volunteer somewhere in your local community. Reach out to younger girls in your church or neighborhood. When you are serving with a loving and willing heart you are doing something that the Lord loves to see His children so eager to do. There are opportunities everywhere for you to serve, just make sure you put yourself out there so people know you’re available and listen to God’s direction. He will lead you to the place where you can do the most good for furthering His kingdom.


Grow: Growing spiritually and strengthening relationships is something you will never have the opportunity to put in as much time and energy again after this season of singleness is over. Dive in and soak up God’s Word. Memorize it! As much as you can. Also, put in the effort to have good relationships and bonds with your family. When you have your own little ones, you won’t have time to take your sibling(s) out for ice cream or watch their favorite movie with them. Take advantage of these opportunities.



A great way to stay productive and always moving forward is to make a list of goals. A long-term schedule, if you will. I read a book a while back that encouraged young ladies to write out a “ten year plan” of goals/things you want to accomplish. Now, I did a shorter “two-to-three-year plan,” but make it yours. Do two, five, or ten years – whatever you want to do. Think of things you really like doing and want to become better at and things you really want to learn how to do, and go from there. When making my list, I tried to think of ways I personally could serve my family, younger girls, and my local community, along with homemaking skills, and Bible learning/spiritual growth. 

To give you a rough idea, here are a few things I added to my personal list:


Start a Bible study for young girls

Volunteer at my local Crisis Pregnancy Center

Learn basic canning skills


Like I said, these are just a few of the things I want to accomplish, and everyone’s list will look different, but I hope that if you aren’t sure where to start this helps you. Make sure that you prayerfully think about what yours should look like. Also, try to stretch yourself a little. Going out of your comfort zone just a little is sometimes a good thing… and almost always beneficial.


“To every thing there is a season,

and a time to every purpose under the heaven:” –Ecclesiastes 3:1



This is your season of learning, serving, and growing. I hope that this encourages you to keep productive during this time God has allowed you to be solely focused on Him and furthering His Kingdom.


What are some ways you like to stay busy during this season of singleness?


The Blessing of Your Single Years



Most people view singleness as a curse, but God did not intend for it to be looked on like that. He doesn’t want us to dread these years and wish them away. Singleness is a blessing. It is a special, unique gift God has given us as a time of learning, serving, and growing. It is a time for us to solely focus on Him, His love, His Word, and His work.

Most people might be thinking, “Are you mad? Being single? A gift?”  But I’m quite serious. If you can’t be happy and content being single now, you won’t stay happy and content very long being married later on, either. In this day and age people have been programmed to think that you always need to have “someone” and therefore can’t possibly be happy alone. But truthfully, even when single, God is always there; and I believe He wants us to recognize the fact that before he brings His intended spouse for us, HE is our “Someone”.

The more I grow, the more I realize just how wonderful this gift truly is. Of course I am excited for the day God brings my future husband into my life, and as I grow older there are times when I have to go to Him and ask for peace and contentment. But I can honestly say that I am happy and growing so much through this period in my life. The Lord has blessed me beyond measure with an incredible family, a love for learning (which keeps me busy), and His own magnificent faithfulness. I know there is a reason I am where I am. And there is no other place I would rather be than in the center of God’s will for my life. So this singleness, this season of waiting, I know is a precious gift that I need to be thankful for. When God gives us a gift, it is our responsibility to take care of it and use it to our full potential. That is what singleness is. If you are single right now, God has given you that gift, what are you doing with it?

Next week: Earlier I mentioned that this season is a time of learning, serving, and growing. In my next post I want to talk about ways to do those things through what I personally have learned. So stay tuned!