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Date or Wait?


Why don’t I date?

Some people like to ask why I don’t date, and I’m sure other young ladies who have chosen this path have been asked that question, too. Here is my answer:



I’m putting my focus on God and what He has for me to learn.

There are a great many things God has for His children to learn during their single years. If we are so focused on a dating relationship God didn’t intend, that can injure not only us, but the person we are dating by keeping the both of us from an important lesson God might have for us to learn. There are many things that we can only learn and grow in while single. Keeping this time sacred is very important and beneficial. When dating someone before God says you’re ready, He often allows us to run into hardship so we become broken and come back to Him to get us back on track.


I’m waiting for the one man God has for me.

Since I was a little girl my parents have instilled in me the importance of waiting for the right man. As I’ve grown up I have understood that God has one man for me; and someday, when our hearts are ready, God will bring us together. Until then I feel it is important to wait. I love Charles Stanley’s quote, “Our willingness to wait reveals the value we place on the object we are waiting for.” And how true that is! I value the heart and love of the man God has for me. I value the beauty and sacredness of marriage so much that I am willing to wait for God’s perfect timing. If God only has a certain man that is right for me, I don’t need several men in my life. I only need one, if he’s the right one.


I’m saving my {whole} heart for the man God has for me.

I once read a great example of the effects of dating by author Joshua Harris in his book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye”. It was a wedding day. The bride and groom were happily standing at the alter when suddenly, a girl from the congregation walked up and stood next to the groom. Then another… and another. The bride looked in horror at her almost-husband and asked what in the world was going on. With guilt and regret he said that they were his past girlfriends. Each of them had a small piece of his heart, but assured her that the rest of it was hers.

This example so accurately describes one of the biggest reasons why I have chosen the path less taken. Because, on my wedding day, when I vow to be true to the man standing beside me, when I promise to love him all the days of my life, I want to give him my whole, untouched heart. And if that means not dating, well, that seems like a small price to pay.



I know that this view is not widely shared. But these are my convictions, and I pray that they encourage other young ladies in their “waiting” journey.

It will be worth it.