Being a young lady in the 21st century is tough. I’m not going to lie. Being a young lady overly anxious for Prince Charming to come on the scene makes it even harder. There are many girls who have their standards set unreasonably high for Mr. Right. They have everything planned out and know exactly what they want in a man… down to his hair color. (For some, I am not exaggerating). High standards are good, but we need to primarily focus on character rather than externals.
I have also seen a true concern among some young ladies that there aren’t any “good men” left. I’m here to assure you that there are. God has it all planned out for you. However, so many girls have set their standards for their dream man, but haven’t taken a moment’s thought about themselves. If you want Prince Charming to come sweep you off your feet with romance, chivalry, godliness, and good character, then you need to make sure you are learning how to become a woman that a gentleman like that would seek. Be a girl worth searching for! Don’t stress that there aren’t any gentleman left. There are. But they are waiting for God to lead them to a godly, noble woman of character. This “becoming a godly woman” thing doesn’t magically happen when you see a handsome gentleman sitting in the church pew in front of you. It happens now. It happens during your single years, while God is preparing your heart and his – whomever “he” may be.
How do I become a girl worth searching for?
First and foremost, a woman of godly character has a heart full of the love of her heavenly Father.
Pray and ask God to help you keep your eyes fixed upon Him. He is my number one priority. He is my Heavenly Prince. He deserves all of my attention right now. He deserves all of my love and energy right now. Not some figment of my imagination.
“An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit…” -1 Corinthians 7:34 (NIV)
Search the Scriptures. God has a love letter for his daughters to read, learn from, and memorize to help us become true women of God. For this particular topic of being a godly woman, start with Proverbs 31:10-31. From there you will learn that a godly, noble woman is:
And much more!
Read through it, study it, even memorize it! Knowing God’s Word is one of the biggest ways to become a true woman of God – a girl worth searching for!
Another thing I really enjoy doing to better myself in becoming a more godly woman is to listen to or read about older ladies journeys. The ones who have gone before me. The ones who have experienced more and know more. The ones who want to encourage other young ladies as we come up behind them and are patiently awaiting God’s perfect timing to bring our earthly prince into our life. Those are the ladies I love listening to and reading what they have to say. This come straight out of Titus 2 which says in verses 4-5,
“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” (NIV)
The “they” verse four is referring to are the older women in the church. They are urged to set an example and to encourage the younger women coming up behind them. There is much to learn from the older, more experienced women. Take time to listen to them. It is another important part of becoming a noble woman yourself.
It is not our job to worry about there being a gentleman out there for us. God has a plan for that. What is our job is to work on our heart and mind. Molding and shaping ourselves into strong, gentle, kind, noble, and godly women. Take this time to continually work on growing to be more and more like the godly young lady God has you to be. Again, I want to echo what I said earlier: Keep your eyes on the Lord! By His strength alone can we become women of character.
“I keep my eyes always on the Lord. With him at my right hand, I will not be shaken. Therefore my heart is glad and my tongue rejoices; my body also will rest secure,”
-Psalm 16:8-9 (NIV)