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For the Stay-At-Home Graduate {link-up}

About a week ago I shared with HEAV’s blog about the road of being a graduate AFTER the big day. And not just any graduate, but a stay-at-home daughter. I hope you will stop by and read it. I also hope you find some encouragement, too!

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“To all of you graduates, who have marked this exciting event in your life – you’re finished! And congratulations to you! A few months ago I wrote a blog post about the time leading up to graduation. But for some, there can still be as many questions after graduation as there are before. I feel a desire to write to daughters–stay-at-home daughters to be exact–who aren’t heading off to college this fall like most everyone else.

 What to do? You know college isn’t it, but what is? Well, I can’t tell you what to do. I think for us, stay-at-home daughter-hood will look different for each lady. But I can tell you a little bit about how I went through those first few months after graduation, and I hope that this will help you and encourage you as you seek God’s direction.

 The first two weeks or so for me were difficult. Every single day I would just try to adjust to this new phase of life in which I didn’t have to get up each morning to get to work on the English paper I hadn’t finished the night before, or to take that science test I had been studying for.

It was all done. Completed. Finished.”

 

To read the whole article, click here.

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Practicing Hospitality as a Young {unmarried} Woman

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My mother has always made hospitality a priority. It was something near and dear to her heart; especially for fellow homeschooling mamas and military wives (she herself is a Navy wife of coming up on nineteen years). So growing up I saw the importance of practicing this biblical command because of my mama’s influence and example.

“Use hospitality one to another without grudging.”1 Peter 4:9

One of the very many things I am looking forward to when I get married is to have a house to make a home and invite people into. But how can I practice hospitality even now as an unmarried woman in my parent’s home? While it seems an unlikely task and even unnecessary for us unmarried ladies, it is something we can do!

Why? Because one of the most over-looked ways to minister to those around us is simply inviting a friend, fellow church member, or neighbor into your home for dinner, coffee, tea, or lunch. It’s so simple, yet so many don’t open up their home because of various different reasons (I would like to point out that I am not trying to point fingers, but to encourage people to look past!) like their house being too messy, or thinking that what they have to offer isn’t good or fancy enough. When really, it’s the fellowship that matters the most, not impressing people with how organized you can keep your plastics cabinet. This is something my mom has talked to me about now, that way in the future when I have my own home I will be equipped with the right mindset. Do I think it is a horrible thing not to practice this? Or course not! But just like so many other things, it’s a good idea to practice and learn the things you will (probably) do as a wife and mother. This includes practicing hospitality.

 

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I though it would be neat to write out some suggestions of things stay-at-home daughters can do to show hospitality. Now, I’m being mindful that we as daughters don’t have unlimited access to schedules of our family and free reign of the house. The whole family lives here, so you will have to work with the family. But this is possible!

I have come up with some ways we as stay-at-home daughters can practice hospitality:

 

Host a Bible study in your home: What better way to practice hospitality than to invite a group of girls into your home and dig into the Word of God?

Host a book club: Alright, so this one has the same concept to it as the first one. I have personally done a girls book club in my home and it was so much fun! You can read about it here: My Book Club Journey

Have a luncheon: Invite a few friends to your home for a small luncheon. This idea will take some coordination with your family’s schedule. But definitely ask your sisters and mother if they would be willing to help you with brainstorming, cooking/baking, cleaning and setting things out. This could be such a fun “event” you and the other ladies in your family could host!

Have a friend over for a simple cup of coffee: Now, if you have a lot of younger siblings who have school work to do, this might not be something you are able to do (or maybe you could? Every family’s schedule is different!). However, I know that there are a lot of young ladies out there who don’t have siblings and therefore would be able to do this.

 

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There are a few different things that young, unmarried ladies could do to practice hospitality. With whatever you do, though, remember two things:

1, Always make sure to respect your parent’s schedule, because it is their home first and foremost.

2, The point of hospitality (inviting people into your home) is to fellowship and investing into the lives of the people who walk through your front door. Yes, it’s nice to be impressive, even I like to try to impress, but that is not the main point. The main point is to refresh and encourage your guest and make them feel at home when they sit at your dining room table or on your living room couch.

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What are some ideas you have come up with to practice hospitality as an unmarried woman at home? I would love to hear from you!

 

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Womanhood With Purpose

An Interview {link up}

I had the immense privilege of doing an interview for Libby over at A Noble Calling last month! She asked me some wonderfully thought out questions about stay-at-home daughterhood. This is actually a series she does where she interviews stay-at-home daughters and wives as a way to encourage other young ladies.

She asked me questions like, “what’s your favorite part of being a stay-at-home daughter?” and, “what made you decided to stay at home?” among other great questions! I do hope that you will stop by her blog today and take a look at the full interview. I also hope that you gain some encouragement from it!

Meet Maiya

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Enjoy!

Have a blessed day!

What I Can Do For My Family

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Being part of a family is a beautiful thing. Loving, caring for, and truly knowing your family is an incredible thing! Growing up in today’s society, if you don’t fight with your little brother that’s thought of as a step up. But God wanted the family to be more than that. The family you are placed in is not an accident. I promise you the stork didn’t slip two blocks away from the intended house number. You, and only you, can fit the role you have in your family the best. So, here are a few ways to practice doing some wonderful things for your family.

 

Pray for them

The first and most important thing is to pray for your family. Now, if you have a super-sized family like I do, that might take a little while! But it is worth it. Never underestimate the power of prayer. If any of your family members are struggling they need comfort and encouragement. But God is the only One who can truly help and guide them through their struggle. Pray that their hearts would be opened to whatever God is trying to teach them.

Even if there is no struggle in their lives that you know of, you can still pray for them. Pray that they would grow spiritually. Pray that they would grow in maturity and good character.

 

Serve them

There will be different ways you can help different people in your family. Everyone plays a unique and important role in the family… and each family is different and therefore there will be different ways each of us could serve our families.

For mothers, it could be taking it upon yourself to take care of the things you are able to – like change the baby’s diaper, or load the dishwasher – so your momma can work on other tasks that only she is capable of doing for the family.

For fathers, you could wash the car and clean it out for him. That could really help him out and probably is something he doesn’t have to worry about it on his to-do list.

To serve your family, the main thing is to keep your eyes open to what needs to be done around the house.

 

Notice the little things

Take time to notice the little things, too. What’s your momma’s favorite CD? Have that playing quietly when she wakes up each morning. What’s your sibling’s favorite game? Ask them to do a “tournament” with you. What’s your daddy’s favorite dessert? Have that baked and ready to enjoy after dinner one night a week. These are just a few suggestions. YOU are a part of your family. You have the opportunity to get to know them the best!

 

Make sure your responsibilities in the household are a priority

This is a huge thing to do for your family! Do what you’re expected to do. I know, sounds silly, doesn’t it? But everyone has chores; do yours cheerfully, thoroughly, and without being reminded. With that, go the extra mile, too. If one of your chores is sweeping a specific room (or rooms) then dust as well. If you have an assigned room to keep clean, don’t just keep it tidy, make sure to organize it, too.

 

Perform thoughtful acts of kindness

This one really ties into the “notice the little things” category I mentioned earlier. If you are out at the store and see your sister’s favorite candy or a movie your family would enjoy (and, of course, if you have a little extra money) buy it for them. If you notice your momma is feeling a bit down and tired say something encouraging. Something as simple as, “I love you,” or “I think you’re a wonderful momma,” could really cheer her up. When you get to know your family and what they like the most, you will know how best to perform acts of kindness toward them. Learning each person’s love language can go a long way in helping you with this. Learn more about love languages from Gary Chapman’s series of The 5 Love Languages books.

 

Loving, serving, and caring for your family is hard work. But it is the most beneficial endeavor you will ever undertake! Like I said at the beginning, God placed you in your family for a reason. Take hold of the opportunities to let them know how much you love them by serving them, noticing the little things, and even praying for them.

 

 

When God Isn’t Leading You to College

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What are you going to do now?

 

When your answer to this question is NOT the typical reply that you are going to the University of Fill-in-the-Blank, you can feel quite alone even though you know God isn’t leading you in that direction.

 

But you’re not alone.

 

When I felt God leading me away from the college choice, I did feel alone. I had many questions, especially about what I was going to do now. For the past several chapters of my life I have had my school work to focus on, as well as a few extra curricular activities. Now that it was over and done with, I wasn’t sure what on earth was next, if not college. I wasn’t sure what the big picture was, but God was trying to teach me to let go of that need to see the big picture. I have learned that this time in life – not being sure what’s next – is a “walk of faith” that God is bringing me through to teach me to lean entirely on Him and not the idea I have in my head. (2 Cor. 5:7) 

 

Lots of prayer and meditating on Scripture went into figuring out that God has called me to a life at home. I asked that God would give me guidance, contentment, and comfort through this decision and next season of life, and I was reminded of Jeremiah 29:11

 

“For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to

 prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” (NIV)

 

 

God has a wonderful, unique plan for me through this stay-at-home time in my life. Trusting in the Lord’s will is the best thing a follower of Christ can do. I have found this time while I am at home that God is preparing me for my future family. Right now, during my singleness and time spent not in college classes, is the time God is helping me practice practical ways to serve my family. Things like helping my mom with homeschooling my siblings (homeschooling is something that is near and dear to my heart) along with helping with the kitchen tasks of baking and cooking. Also, I have turned to other ministry opportunities, like volunteering and organizing clubs for younger girls that are in my area/community. Having a ministry mindset is something my parents encourage through family first and also community. I hope and pray that eventually God will open doors for travel opportunities and over-seas mission trips.

 

 

My mother has shared with me that when the responsibility of a home comes, when babies and husband need our attention, there will not be nearly as much time to really drink in God’s Word.  NOW, during this incredibly unique time when I am single and at home is a precious gift of an opportunity to focus on Him and His Word.

 

Two quick read books that I found encouraging for the stay-at-home daughter are:

 

Single Girl by Ashley Schnarr

No More Wasted Years by Olivia Brodock