He Can’t Love You Yet

Because of where I work (at a school) and just my experiences outside of work around youth I am able to see how they act on a semi-daily basis. Something that I’ve noticed is the older you get the easier it is to spot those silly school girl/boy crushes. What I see in this age group just makes me want to cry out to them and tell them something that I wish so desperately more people would be making them aware of.


I am going to specifically address girls because, well, that’s what I can relate to.

Girls, any guy walking through the school hallway, no matter how good looking he may be, is so not ready for the responsibility of being the caretaker of your heart. He’s just not “into” you like that. He’s too young. I have seen many girls heartbroken because they thought that the boy they’re dating in high school or even middle school was the one. And I understand that marrying someone from high school is totally possible, but you’re definitely not going to be able to marry them while you’re in high school or middle school.

I hope you’ll hear me out.

That boy you think can make you happy needs to grow up first. I don’t say this in a harsh tone towards males. I think they’re fabulous. But I also happen to know that when boys are that young they have no idea what it takes to love you the way you ought to be loved; to take care of you the way you should be taken care of. To be honest, most of us girls, when we’re still that young, have no idea how to love them (men) the way they need to be loved either. So don’t think it’s all their fault and that you’re just waiting for them to grow up and mature.

This is all a process that every single one of use goes through. If you’re open to it, the Lord will fulfill that desire for love and passion while you’re learning to grow in maturity and while you’re waiting for “him” to grow up too.

Let boys be boys and mess around on football fields and play in the mud with their friends. Don’t give your precious heart to them just yet. Let them grow up first. If you wait for God to show you the man that will utterly desire you and cherish you the way you were meant to be cherished nothing would compare to it.

I know that this world encourages, and even pushes, you to constantly be with someone or at least to be “in love” with someone. Don’t let that term become commonplace to you. Let it mean something special by giving your heart to Jesus and allowing His perfect timing and will guide your love story. Don’t let the petty “dating game” keep you from the potential God has in store for you when you let Him be the Lover of your soul.

It’s hard. I’m not saying otherwise. Nothing worthwhile is ever easy. But with time and grace it becomes more peaceful and meaningful. Be in love with God and let Him show you your Prince Charming when the perfect time comes. It’s worth the wait.

“Wait patiently for the LORD. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.” -Psalm 27:14 (NLT)


2 thoughts on “He Can’t Love You Yet

  1. From personal experience…. When you wait patiently on God’s timing, He blesses you with man (not a boy) that he intended for you. Waiting on God’s timing is one of the hardest, but most fulfilling things that we can do. Something things in life NEED that waiting period in life because, well, it makes it more sweeter. Some examples of times when waiting makes it worthwhile: a baby growing over a nine month season, a pie in the oven, bread baking after it took hours to rise, a puzzle that has all the pieces in just the right places, and waiting for the man God has for you. 🙂 Thanks for sharing Maiya! Keep encouraging those around you! You’re beautiful through and through!

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