Tag Archive | God’s gift

The Blessing of Your Single Years



Most people view singleness as a curse, but God did not intend for it to be looked on like that. He doesn’t want us to dread these years and wish them away. Singleness is a blessing. It is a special, unique gift God has given us as a time of learning, serving, and growing. It is a time for us to solely focus on Him, His love, His Word, and His work.

Most people might be thinking, “Are you mad? Being single? A gift?”  But I’m quite serious. If you can’t be happy and content being single now, you won’t stay happy and content very long being married later on, either. In this day and age people have been programmed to think that you always need to have “someone” and therefore can’t possibly be happy alone. But truthfully, even when single, God is always there; and I believe He wants us to recognize the fact that before he brings His intended spouse for us, HE is our “Someone”.

The more I grow, the more I realize just how wonderful this gift truly is. Of course I am excited for the day God brings my future husband into my life, and as I grow older there are times when I have to go to Him and ask for peace and contentment. But I can honestly say that I am happy and growing so much through this period in my life. The Lord has blessed me beyond measure with an incredible family, a love for learning (which keeps me busy), and His own magnificent faithfulness. I know there is a reason I am where I am. And there is no other place I would rather be than in the center of God’s will for my life. So this singleness, this season of waiting, I know is a precious gift that I need to be thankful for. When God gives us a gift, it is our responsibility to take care of it and use it to our full potential. That is what singleness is. If you are single right now, God has given you that gift, what are you doing with it?

Next week: Earlier I mentioned that this season is a time of learning, serving, and growing. In my next post I want to talk about ways to do those things through what I personally have learned. So stay tuned!

Comparison: The Thief of Joy


Comparison is the thief of joy. –Theodore Roosevelt


We have all heard this true saying. But just how often do we still compare ourselves with others? Let’s be honest – a lot! I have observed two major ways of comparing ourselves with others. One way is looking down on others and thinking we are “better.”  Yikes!  Prideful much?

But I think the more common way of comparing – especially among us women – is comparing how “bad” a certain area in us to how “good” an area is in someone else is.

However, most of the time it’s their outside appearance with your inward. Their triumphs with your failures. Their great days with your bad ones.

Dear sister in Christ, don’t do that to yourself. YOU will have good days, too. YOU have incredible talent, too.

 “She is so talented.”

“She is so outgoing and friendly.”

In 1 Corinthians 12, Paul writes to the church in Corinth about how everybody has their own specific gift or ability that is needed to make the church function as a whole.
Verses 19-22 (KJV) say:

And if they were all one member, where were the body? But now are they many members,
yet but one body. And the eye cannot say to the hand,
I have no need of thee: nor again the head to the feet, I have no need of you. Nay, much more those members
of the body, which seem to be more feeble, are necessary.

We all have unique talents that God has given us as wonderful gifts. Paul encouraged the church in Corinth to be an example of complementing each others’ gifts that God bestowed upon each of them.

God never intended for us to be discouraged because we do not have a specific talent. He wants us to enjoy the beauty and gifts He has given us! God has given you something special – a talent that only you can express in your own unique way. He has also placed you in your family, church, etc. for a reason. The people around you, in your family, and at your church, function more beautifully when everyone uses their God given abilities to their purpose. That means YOU just as much as it means your mother, sibling, or choir director. When tempted to think that your gifts are lesser than another’s, remember that Paul said even those that may seem more feeble are just as important (vs. 22).


I once read that God has given us all gifts and what we do with them is our gift back to Him. Instead of envying our neighbor’s abilities, exercise your gift – use it to praise the Lord! True joy can never be found until we learn to be grateful for our gifts and abilities, and learn how to exercise those gifts to glorify God.