Being part of a family is a beautiful thing. Loving, caring for, and truly knowing your family is an incredible thing! Growing up in today’s society, if you don’t fight with your little brother that’s thought of as a step up. But God wanted the family to be more than that. The family you are placed in is not an accident. I promise you the stork didn’t slip two blocks away from the intended house number. You, and only you, can fit the role you have in your family the best. So, here are a few ways to practice doing some wonderful things for your family.
Pray for them
The first and most important thing is to pray for your family. Now, if you have a super-sized family like I do, that might take a little while! But it is worth it. Never underestimate the power of prayer. If any of your family members are struggling they need comfort and encouragement. But God is the only One who can truly help and guide them through their struggle. Pray that their hearts would be opened to whatever God is trying to teach them.
Even if there is no struggle in their lives that you know of, you can still pray for them. Pray that they would grow spiritually. Pray that they would grow in maturity and good character.
There will be different ways you can help different people in your family. Everyone plays a unique and important role in the family… and each family is different and therefore there will be different ways each of us could serve our families.
For mothers, it could be taking it upon yourself to take care of the things you are able to – like change the baby’s diaper, or load the dishwasher – so your momma can work on other tasks that only she is capable of doing for the family.
For fathers, you could wash the car and clean it out for him. That could really help him out and probably is something he doesn’t have to worry about it on his to-do list.
To serve your family, the main thing is to keep your eyes open to what needs to be done around the house.
Notice the little things
Take time to notice the little things, too. What’s your momma’s favorite CD? Have that playing quietly when she wakes up each morning. What’s your sibling’s favorite game? Ask them to do a “tournament” with you. What’s your daddy’s favorite dessert? Have that baked and ready to enjoy after dinner one night a week. These are just a few suggestions. YOU are a part of your family. You have the opportunity to get to know them the best!
Make sure your responsibilities in the household are a priority
This is a huge thing to do for your family! Do what you’re expected to do. I know, sounds silly, doesn’t it? But everyone has chores; do yours cheerfully, thoroughly, and without being reminded. With that, go the extra mile, too. If one of your chores is sweeping a specific room (or rooms) then dust as well. If you have an assigned room to keep clean, don’t just keep it tidy, make sure to organize it, too.
Perform thoughtful acts of kindness
This one really ties into the “notice the little things” category I mentioned earlier. If you are out at the store and see your sister’s favorite candy or a movie your family would enjoy (and, of course, if you have a little extra money) buy it for them. If you notice your momma is feeling a bit down and tired say something encouraging. Something as simple as, “I love you,” or “I think you’re a wonderful momma,” could really cheer her up. When you get to know your family and what they like the most, you will know how best to perform acts of kindness toward them. Learning each person’s love language can go a long way in helping you with this. Learn more about love languages from Gary Chapman’s series of The 5 Love Languages books.
Loving, serving, and caring for your family is hard work. But it is the most beneficial endeavor you will ever undertake! Like I said at the beginning, God placed you in your family for a reason. Take hold of the opportunities to let them know how much you love them by serving them, noticing the little things, and even praying for them.