Last week I talked about the blessings of your season of singleness. How it is something to be cherished, instead of dreaded. I also said it was a time to learn, serve, and grow. Well, I thought it would be a good idea to expand a little more on that: how to best go about learning, serving, and growing.
Ever since I was a little girl, Proverbs 31 has been a favorite passage of mine. The woman portrayed here is such a good example of productivity. She knows many skill and trades, and works so diligently with her hands for her family. We can learn a lot from her. This season of singleness is one of the most important opportunities to learn the skills that will help you to serve your family and the people around you.
Learn: Learn the homemaking skills you will need one day as the keeper of your home. I’ve heard of countless stories of women waiting until they were engaged to start learning the valuable skills a wife/mother needs to know. How to cook, how to do laundry, and organizational skills are all basic things I encourage you to get experienced with. If you are already good with those, you might want to consider learning things like gardening, couponing, or sewing. Any new skill that you can use to help your family and the family you may have someday.
This is also a great time to do LOTS of reading on a variety of topics. Some of my favorites are Preparing To Be A Help Meet by Debi Pearl and What The Bible Says About Healthy Living by Rex Russell. The more you know, the more prepared you are for life. Reading books like this is almost like walking with the wise and learning from them.
“Wisdom is the principal thing; therefore get wisdom: and with all thy getting get understanding.” –Proverbs 4:7
Serve: Serve your family. Volunteer somewhere in your local community. Reach out to younger girls in your church or neighborhood. When you are serving with a loving and willing heart you are doing something that the Lord loves to see His children so eager to do. There are opportunities everywhere for you to serve, just make sure you put yourself out there so people know you’re available and listen to God’s direction. He will lead you to the place where you can do the most good for furthering His kingdom.
Grow: Growing spiritually and strengthening relationships is something you will never have the opportunity to put in as much time and energy again after this season of singleness is over. Dive in and soak up God’s Word. Memorize it! As much as you can. Also, put in the effort to have good relationships and bonds with your family. When you have your own little ones, you won’t have time to take your sibling(s) out for ice cream or watch their favorite movie with them. Take advantage of these opportunities.
A great way to stay productive and always moving forward is to make a list of goals. A long-term schedule, if you will. I read a book a while back that encouraged young ladies to write out a “ten year plan” of goals/things you want to accomplish. Now, I did a shorter “two-to-three-year plan,” but make it yours. Do two, five, or ten years – whatever you want to do. Think of things you really like doing and want to become better at and things you really want to learn how to do, and go from there. When making my list, I tried to think of ways I personally could serve my family, younger girls, and my local community, along with homemaking skills, and Bible learning/spiritual growth.
To give you a rough idea, here are a few things I added to my personal list:
Start a Bible study for young girls
Volunteer at my local Crisis Pregnancy Center
Learn basic canning skills
Like I said, these are just a few of the things I want to accomplish, and everyone’s list will look different, but I hope that if you aren’t sure where to start this helps you. Make sure that you prayerfully think about what yours should look like. Also, try to stretch yourself a little. Going out of your comfort zone just a little is sometimes a good thing… and almost always beneficial.
“To every thing there is a season,
and a time to every purpose under the heaven:” –Ecclesiastes 3:1
This is your season of learning, serving, and growing. I hope that this encourages you to keep productive during this time God has allowed you to be solely focused on Him and furthering His Kingdom.
What are some ways you like to stay busy during this season of singleness?